We did what we wanted this weekend. Susan "wanted to" wrap up the taxes, insurance, paperwork, Spring shopping. By agreement I got to visit family in Kansas.
We were both successful and yet we both fell a bit short.
At a time when it is more important than ever to stay connected, to support one another, and to piece together the puzzle that is Sarah, we decided to divide and conquer. We gained a few advantages but lost a few more. Road trips are really therapeutic. Where else but a car's cabin are you able to shut out so many distractions and dig a bit deeper into "issues". Putting aside a "marriage encounter" it's the road trip that has worked for us. Call this weekend a missed opportunity.
Both of us were successful in the pursuit of personal pleasure. Susan conquered the tax clock and I was able to be "dad and grandpa" to our Kansas kids. (Go Jayhawks! Chris' alma mater, KU, was the Final 4 champ in '08 and GoRamblers! Erin's alma mater, Loyola, was the NCAA champ in 1963!?) We were successful at avoiding wrestling with the Sarah situation.
Mystery, puzzle, enigma. It doesn't make sense. The words we've been using (addiction, craving, brain disease...) may salve the pain but deeper are the feelings of frustration, failure, and a bit of despair.
Onward, one step at a time.
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but deeper are the feelings of frustration, failure, and a bit of despair.
Rich and Susan,
I wish I could erase failure from your thoughts, because as parents we always look back and ask ourselves," What could we have done better or differently?" But, that familiar saying that you, Richard, know so well ...we do the best we can with what we know, is what we hold onto, because it is true. Being human, we ALL make mistakes; but you have given your children love, respect, faith and opportunities. You never have given up..so that is not failure!
Love you,
Julie
I think that it is useful to get away, though. Processing information always works better for me when I have the opportunity to approach the problem asymmetrically. (I was looking for an excuse to use the word).
Love,
Tom
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